No matter how active or inactive you are on social media, I bet my last Ghana cedi that you’re very familiar with the heading.

The hashtag is so popular. there are those that will go to any lengths to be classified as goals and there are those who will go out of their way to act like the couple they tag goals.

I won’t sit here and act like I’ve never looked at another couple and tagged them as my couple goals. that would be hypocritical on my part. I have but then later on, I found out that so much is going on behind the scene that they (said relationship goals couple) would not show or tell because it doesn’t fit the narrative they have created.

So, I have learnt that relationships differ from couple to couple because each relationship consists of people with different personalities, therefore, what works for couple A may not necessarily be the blueprint that couple B should follow because their backgrounds differ.

However, it is important to note that Christian couples despite their different personalities and upbringing have a rule book and that is the Bible and it is important they take counsel from it instead of pop culture.

I’ve seen how idolizing a couple can shatter a relationship because partners couldn’t live up to the fantasy that these “Relationship Goals Couples” create. Just in case you had no idea, successful relationships require work. so instead of focusing on people who only post the highlights of their relationship, why don’t you and your partner focus on your own relationship and make it to be your own goals.

This is not to say don’t learn from other couples. I’m just saying that don’t idolize them so much that even without knowing story after the cameras are turned off you pressurize yourself and your partner.

Live, Love and most importantly, Learn.