I think it’s safe to say I am one weird human. Most people don’t listen to the lyrics of a love song and automatically think “Oooh that’s like me and God” but I do that and extremely often. I guess maybe that is why I am totally enamoured with love so much. I love watching movies or tv shows that have a depiction of love. My favourite books are romance novels and you guessed it my music app is filled with love songs. I always thought it was just so weird that everything love made me so happy and lately I have been finding out that it’s not shocking that I believe in love so much because God is love and He performed the grandest gesture of His love by letting His only son die for our sins so that we can call Him our Father and be made right in His eyes when we believe in the ultimate sacrifice of His precious son.

I had a different view of love for so long but lately, I have been seeing what real love really looks like. I have learnt that love is the acceptance that is, the acceptance of who the person is at that time and not who you think they are or who you or they aspire to be. Because scripture tells us that while we were sinners Christ died for us. It goes on to tell us that maybe some of us may be willing to die for good people but just as sinful as we are, God loved us enough to send His only son to come and die for us. Case in point;

• Romans 5:7 “For scarcely for a righteous man will one die, yet perhaps for a good man someone would even dare to die.”
• Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while were still sinners, Christ died for us”

So, when I think about love, I think of total acceptance of who a person is.

Therefore, anytime I think of telling someone that I love them, I make sure to think whether I can love them completely with all their various imperfections and in that vein, we dispel the notion that love is an emotion. Love is a decision. You look at someone and all their crap and you choose to love them and stick with them.

I really don’t have it all figured out but one main thing I have figured out is that in my mess and all my errors God chose to love me and He’s been choosing ever since. Another thing is that we choose to love people therefore loving is a decision that we make and before we make it like every decision, we need to be sure (That is, making assessments. Pros and cons that sort of thing.) that we are loving who they are and not who we hope they would be or who we think they are but who they actually are in the here and now.