All my life, I’ve always done what daddy said. I spoke the way daddy would approve and I made choices that are meant to shape my life based on daddy’s preferences. Anytime a question was directed to me, I said what daddy will say. I’ve never done anything contrary to what daddy expects until now. I’m in my early 20s and I have no idea what I want from this life. I can’t think of a path to take because daddy chose everything. My schools, the subjects I studied and the books I read. As old as I am, I feel so lost. Every day, thanks to social media and the press we read and hear about the exploits of young successful people. I see people younger than I am who have accomplished their goals or are working on it and I’m sitting here wondering who I am and what do I like. There’s probably a couple of others out there but I don’t see them and it’s lonely out here. Most people say it’s normal to still be figuring things out at this stage but I disagree. Times are really changing and I don’t want to be left behind. I’m only here because circumstances caused me to take a step back before I continued on a path of unfulfillment and unhappiness. So I ask myself who am I without daddy’s voice. I think parents really want the best for their children and sometimes they tend to take the driver’s seat in their lives but it really shouldn’t be so. I decided a long time ago to actually have a dialogue with my children and get to know them and their desires because, in the end, they’ll be who they’re meant to be. If you’re a parent, save your children the anguish they’ll definitely feel if they’re living a life they didn’t sign up for.